My understanding of mindfulness isn't that you never feel bad. You're actually supposed to acknowledge that you feel bad!
My zendo in the US put on a screening of a biopic of Shunryu Suzuki, and at one point the topic of his wife's death came up. They had been close and he mourned her a lot, and someone asked him about how that could be coupled with mindfulness and attachment leads to suffering, etc. His reply was something that he wept when his wife died, but without Zen "my tears would have had roots."
IF you connect that to complaining, I suppose the difference between mindfulness and complaining is that complaining has roots. Which is I guess a very non-specific and woo answer, but something to chew on. (A slightly more concrete answer is that mindfulness fights against the "meta" feeling: the feeling bad about feeling bad. Maybe?)
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Date: 2016-12-01 06:55 am (UTC)My zendo in the US put on a screening of a biopic of Shunryu Suzuki, and at one point the topic of his wife's death came up. They had been close and he mourned her a lot, and someone asked him about how that could be coupled with mindfulness and attachment leads to suffering, etc. His reply was something that he wept when his wife died, but without Zen "my tears would have had roots."
IF you connect that to complaining, I suppose the difference between mindfulness and complaining is that complaining has roots. Which is I guess a very non-specific and woo answer, but something to chew on. (A slightly more concrete answer is that mindfulness fights against the "meta" feeling: the feeling bad about feeling bad. Maybe?)